HusbandServesWife

Submissive man sharing tips about how to get your wife to enjoy domination.

Wednesday, August 24, 2005

Short note, too much to do

Sorry not to be able to communicate daily, as that was my intention. It seems, what with my regular job and the many chores that Wife has assigned, there just aren't enough hours in the day. Oops! She has just called, and instructed me to get a movie - Beauty Shop w/ Queen Latifah - and KFC for dinner, as She is on Her way home from work. So i guess this is a very short update and i will try to squeeze in more some time later. Love to all, but must skedaddle to get this as ordered.

Saturday, August 20, 2005

Typical daily routine

Hello again. Got home about an hour and a half ago, walked the dog, fed the pets, picked up the mail, cleaned up the dishes my Mother-in-Law left out for me (yes, She lives with us - more on that later), cleaned up the coffee and dishes from this morning that i prepared for Her before i left for work, sorted the laundry, and was going to run the white load when i realized i was out of bleach. Am hoping that when She calls to tell me that She is on Her way home from work, She will be planning to stop at the store to pick up some things and i can ask Her if She will pick up some bleach then.
So now i have taken some time for myself to add to this blog. As you can see, i refrain from referring to Her as my wife, as i am uncomfortable with the possessive implication. It is quite the opposite for me being Her husband, of course, as She possesses me completely.
So i will use capital letters and bolding to denote this beautiful soul with whom i share my life.
Now Mother-in-Law, she is capitalized out of respect for Her position as Mother and because She is a woman. IMHO, all Women (Womyn, however you like it) deserve my respect, that is just the nature of my psyche. i am a true believer in female domination as a social, sexual, and spiritual way of life.
Mother-in-Law, however, is only peripherally aware of the level of my submission to Her Daughter, as She benefits from Her Daughter's control over me without being cognizant of the depths to which i obey and serve. She is quite old, nearing 90, and it seems to me that She just accepts the situation as convenient without giving it much thought, much as a child accepts the interactions of ones parents.
She will leave Her breakfast dishes out and they just happen to be cleaned up, or dump Her depends into the waste basket, or Her laundry into Her hamper and not pay any attention to who is doing all of the clean up. She probably thinks it is Her Daughter, if She gives it any thought at all. She seems to take no notice and act as if everything is normal, even when She sees me being told what to do, or disciplined for infractions.
Then again, maybe She is aware of it and enjoys the benefits without showing anything is unusual. i try to give Her no reason to need to punish me in front of Her Mother, and am extra careful to obey promptly whenever we have company. Also, as stated earlier, i am certain that She does not want to flaunt our relationship in front of others. She is a little embarrassed for me at what a pussy whipped little sissy i have become.
For instance, She did not tell me to do the laundry, but i was aware it needed doing. And, i very carefully checked all of the pockets, zipped up and buttoned the pants, and placed Her brassieres into netted bags to protect them from getting tangled as i was sorting the clothes into light, dark and whites. i use Costco detergent that is similar to liquid All, and on colors i use the Clorox II. After that, i folded the clothes out of the dryer that She had put in there. It was a little like a slap in my face, because they were Her Mom's clothes and it meant that i had missed that they needed doing. Though She works many fewer hours, and goes in much later to work than me, i still try to do all of the chores so She won't have to do any. i guess i am just not there yet, but i will keep trying to and when i no longer have to go to an outside job, i feel that i will be able to do much better.
Yea! She called and is coming home. And stopping at the store for dinner, so She will bring me bleach. She told me i am a good little laundress, and even though She meant it in a sweet, sincere way, it is still a little degrading and humiliating to be referred to this way. Of course, She knows that i love that!

Friday, August 19, 2005

How to become PW

Having been married over 15 years, and needing to convince Her that my submissive desires were not going away, i found myself with Her on vacation away from all distraction and other people we knew. It was then that i made an issue of what was so important to me, in our hotel room, in a strange city, at the beginning of a long trip.
Anyone could do what i did, but few do. i told her how much it meant to me, how being submissive wasn't something that would go away. i cried my eyes out and begged for understanding.
She relented, and agreed to try it one weekend a month. After all, what could it hurt. She probably never expected it to lead to the life we now lead, it was so unlike anything in Her experience. She was raised in a military family, where the man wore the pants! and the wife and daughters did what they were told. So this did not come naturally to Her.
It took many years for us to learn how to get along and build a new relationship. Our children aren't even aware of the details, as She has always felt this area of our lives is private. They do know that Dad and Mom get along very well, never fight, and are always united.
Not that it isn't obvious to everyone who knows us that i am pussywhipped, but i am sure that nobody knows the extent to which She wields the authority in our house now. For what started out as one weekend a month has gradually become second nature 24/7. She works a part time job and i work full time, and we enjoy a few luxuries such as a housecleaning service once a week, but that is to my benefit, or else i would be the one vacuuming, dusting, etc.
As it is, She does the cooking but i do all of the clean up. Besides dishes, i do laundry, clean up after the pets, dump the trash, and all of the maintenance for the vehicles and home repair that we don't hire anyone to do for us. She does some yard care, like tending the garden, because She enjoys it. For any job that comes up, She knows i will do it when told, but it has been my desire to do it before she needs to ask to have it done. And that is the key to being a good submissive husband, if only i could have enough time and energy to always do everything before She even asks.
This more than anything else has helped me convince Her to let me serve Her. Like the Nike add says, "Just Do It". She has financial control, sets our schedule for exercise, social events, and has final say on any and all decisions. It isn't something we negotiated, i just surrendered and She appreciates it. She doesn't expect me to check with Her for every little thing, but for any little thing that She decides, She knows that i will obey Her wishes. This is difficult to understand if you are not a submissive, and if you are it is difficult to follow. But it is rewarding if making Her happiness your joy. In creating this blog, i am trying to help others, like me, who crave this kind of a loving relationship. I hope to post cleaning tips, give ideas on small services you can perform, and welcome feedback that contributes to my being able to please Her in any way.

In the beginning - or - First post

This is new to me, i just wanted to add a comment to Katherine West's blog, http://lovingfemaleauthority.blogspot.com/ and i have found myself with this forum in which i can anonymously add to the knowledge base for those submissive men who are struggling to convey the desire to their partners, and to provide a place for those who already have learned how to surrender to share their successes.
Although there is already not enough time in the day for me to do all of the chores i wish i could do, i think that there will be satisfaction from helping others to reach the state of bliss that is to be found in submitting to the authority of their significant other.
So this is the start of my blog, hope you find something here that you can use.