Deportment
Here is a topic that should be taught to every boy as he arrives at puberty. How to behave when in mixed company. Of course, those of us with the desire to serve a Wife need to take graduate classes. These are my thoughts on two aspects of deportment from what i've learned, maybe they can help.
Communication: Yes, we need to watch what we say. In private, it is best to listen more and speak less. Consider Her feelings, answer Her questions directly and honestly, be open about your emotions and pay attention to Her verbal and non-verbal clues. In public, show deference to Her ideas and views, do not interrupt or use foul language. She will love it if you stand up for Her opinions, but remember to be cordial and polite to one and all. Do not disagree openly in public, but rather wait for a private moment to voice your concerns, if you must. Remember to say "Please" and "Thank You", it's called manners and they go a long way.
Physical presence: You will want to find out how She will expect you to comport yourself, and don't be surprised if She feels that your actions need change completely when you are in public versus private. In public She will likely expect you to open doors for Her, stand when She enters a room, light Her cigarette, and perform other acts of chivalry. She may have different protocols for you depending on where you are and with whom. Perhaps She enjoys the company of friends who are aware of the dynamic in your relationship, certainly in that case you would be expected to display the deference to Her that you show Her in private, as well. Her friends may enjoy privileges in Her company you do not, or She may require you to obey them too. It would be best to check with Her for Her expectations, of course. And when you are in private, you should expect that She may enjoy a grander display of your devotion, such as bowing or curtseying when entering a room, keeping your eyes averted, or standing in a corner when not busy with chores.
This is a very large topic, and i am unable to do it justice completely today. Have laundry to finish up, so please add anything that you think important that's been left out. Thanks
Communication: Yes, we need to watch what we say. In private, it is best to listen more and speak less. Consider Her feelings, answer Her questions directly and honestly, be open about your emotions and pay attention to Her verbal and non-verbal clues. In public, show deference to Her ideas and views, do not interrupt or use foul language. She will love it if you stand up for Her opinions, but remember to be cordial and polite to one and all. Do not disagree openly in public, but rather wait for a private moment to voice your concerns, if you must. Remember to say "Please" and "Thank You", it's called manners and they go a long way.
Physical presence: You will want to find out how She will expect you to comport yourself, and don't be surprised if She feels that your actions need change completely when you are in public versus private. In public She will likely expect you to open doors for Her, stand when She enters a room, light Her cigarette, and perform other acts of chivalry. She may have different protocols for you depending on where you are and with whom. Perhaps She enjoys the company of friends who are aware of the dynamic in your relationship, certainly in that case you would be expected to display the deference to Her that you show Her in private, as well. Her friends may enjoy privileges in Her company you do not, or She may require you to obey them too. It would be best to check with Her for Her expectations, of course. And when you are in private, you should expect that She may enjoy a grander display of your devotion, such as bowing or curtseying when entering a room, keeping your eyes averted, or standing in a corner when not busy with chores.
This is a very large topic, and i am unable to do it justice completely today. Have laundry to finish up, so please add anything that you think important that's been left out. Thanks